So what is the perfect body shape? The perfect body size? What is the ideal weight for my height?
These questions are constantly asked by many women with many of us striving desperately to achieve its (often unrealistic) answer.
Your ideal body shape is not defined by a desired weight or a dress size and is certainly not determined by comparing your body to someone else’s. Like the title suggests, your perfect body shape and size is specific and unique to you; it is one that is individually yours and one that illustrates your inner-self. It is neither his nor hers; it is exactly how you feel it to naturally be.
Your body is as unique as you are and no two bodies are the same so how can there be a perfect body shape for all women when we are all so different? And then why is it that we strive to look like somebody else (that has a completely different set of genes, body makeup, shape and composition)?
Why is it that we strive to achieve an image that is outside of ourselves rather than looking within to honour and respect our bodies and its version of its perfect size?
Who’s version of the perfect body shape have we subscribed to? When I ask this question there are very few that can say they subscribe to their own version or to their body’s version but instead have been living up to society’s version or someone else’s!
So where do we begin to take back our power and how exactly do you find your ‘perfect’ body shape?
1 – First and foremost we must acknowledge who we are today. Lumps, bumps, extra kilos and all, we must accept ourselves as we are in this very moment. If we skip the acceptance of where we are currently at, we are forever moving forward with our choices with the message that we are not good enough and will constantly be striving to achieve a goal leaving the whole of you in the wake behind with the message that you were never good enough in the first place. Instead, as we move forward with self-acceptance we are more open to learning and to discovering of what works best for us or not.
2 – Once we have accepted ourselves for who we are and continue to acknowledge where we are at (and let’s not forget how far we have come!) we must then learn to self-love, deeply so! Make self-love your motivation to eat well, to exercise and to take care of your body. When self-love forms the foundation of your choices, you will always make the right choices that honour and respect your body. Self-love and listening to your body will show you what to eat, what not to eat, how to exercise, how much to exercise and more.
3 – From self-loving choices, your body will take on its own perfect shape. Not one from a magazine, not one from an advertisement, nor one that is unachievable but rather one that illustrates your essence, reflects your love-filled choices and one that stands proud for who she is and the abundance of self-acceptance and self-love that emanates her being. Let alone the plentiful energy and self-confidence you gain!
When we learn to stop looking outside of ourselves for the perfect body shape and start to look within we find that our body has an amazing ability to provide all of the answers we need. In fact, as I like to say, the body has an inner-knowing or wisdom of what exactly it needs to live, love and nourish.
Through honouring and respecting our body do we find true self-love and ultimately our ‘perfect’ body shape.
As women (and men too) we have a natural beauty that lies forever within and it is about finding that inner-spark to reconnect to and let it shine for the world to see! And as it shines and we live in respect to our bodies we open an often untouched path to allow our body to adapt and take on its ‘perfect’ shape and no one else’s.
May you walk confidently in your body for it is one of a kind and illustrates your essence so that our world may be filled with our many expressions.
And finally, learn to love who you are and the body you are in. Learn to never self-criticize but instead self- love. Don’t shy away from your inner-beauty. Give yourself permission to feel your beauty, for you are beauty-full.
Guest Author, Casey-Lee Lyons is a qualified Nutritionist and Naturopath, whole foods recipe developer, health and nutrition representative and wellness writer. With over 12 years experience in the health, fitness and wellness industries Casey-Lee is most passionate about inspiring others to feel their healthiest and best self.